John's assorted reblogs


Ulisas Farinas has written a pair of impassioned articles about the normalization of depictions of violence against women in comics and, more recently, underlining the self-delusion inherent in the recent posturing made in response to the rape threats against Janelle Asselin, a comics culture writer who had the temerity to criticize a Teen Titans comic book cover for being dumb (heads up, True Believers, those comics are dumb!)

It’s an undisciplined but honest pair of articles, and he makes some thoughtful points, like 

As an adult, I see men all around me, who write violence, who draw violence, who have never been infected (sic) by violence. Most women you know, have been victims of some sort of violence from a man. But where is Batman and the battered woman? Where is Captain America and the saddest conversation you can have with a girlfriend? Where is all the heartache, the pain, the disgust and the powerlessness?

And on the … well, christ, on the pointlessness of trying to shame bad behavior out of folks…

A man tells a woman he’ll rape her because its the only thing left where he can still have power. You ain’t gonna shame no dude into stop doing that. Shame is exactly why he does it. Dude knows exactly how offensive he is being. And if it offends his dude friends? They think, “That’s cause they’re little bitches too, so fuck them. I bet they can’t get laid, so they just pretend to be feminists to hang out with chicks.”

They don’t know what rape is, except from what they’ve learned from TV, comics and movies. They know that its extremely shocking, and so they can always rely on it to end the conversation.

As a reward for writing these articles, Ulisas been gifted with a lovely bouquet of “UNH ACTUALLY MEN GET RAPED TOO YOU KNOW!” responses, with such suddenness and ferocity that you’d think these guys were competing for the Gold in Missing the Point (I suppose I can inoculate myself against the same thing by adding: he never said they didn’t). He’s been given the greatest gift of all, being proven right by nimrods.

You know that joke - a woman is crying because she’s just received word that her sister and nieces died in a boating accident, and a guy walking by interrupts her; “Uh, excuse me, but men drown too, you know.”

All of this is worth reading, but in particular here’s the link to Part 1 of Feminism as Self Protection.  

[PAX East ‘14] Why it’s awesome being a female in the gaming industry

I wish I could overlay the music from Journey whenever I think about this past Saturday at PAX East. For those of you who were unable to attend or were not aware, I was invited to speak on a panel… Read More »

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So, how’s that novel fanfic you’re working on? Hmm?  The one you’ve been working on for six months now? 

Stewie is a jerk, but he’s also a form of motivation.



(lychee syrup, Absolut Exposure, lemon juice, lychee fruit)

Oh my gosh you guys, the Red Door has the best martini!  Very underground.  They take an ounce of lychee syrup, which by the way has huge cultural implications for the Thai people—the owners are Thai—and mix it with two ounces of Absolut Exposure and a dash of lemon juice.  And then they add two lychee fruits for garnish.  It is so good, you have to try it!

[OOC note:  Lychee fruit is eaten in Thailand, but Britta is actually thinking of China.  She figures they are pretty much the same country, because Britta is super-awesome at cultural sensitivity.   XD]

This is a great post for a lot of reasons, but I’d be lying if I said my favorite was anything other than that picture.

One: Buy condoms. Buy them and keep them with you at all times, and use them before you are asked to use them. And use them every time. The peace of mind you allow your partner will free her to be vulnerable with you, and that, my son, is exactly what sex is about. Condoms are sexy. In fact, call buying condoms foreplay.
(Footnote: If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms, you are not ready to have sex.)

Two: Kissing is not merely foreplay. Spend entire evenings making out on the couch while fully clothed. Believe me, dry-humping rocks.

Three: Sex is not just about friction. It’s about emotion. Stop trying to find her clitoris and find her heart. Because then she’ll help you find her clitoris.

Four: If you really wanna know how to please a woman, ask her how she masturbates. Then do that. A lot. If she claims she doesn’t masturbate, offer to take her shopping for a vibrator so you can both learn the vocabulary of her body together.

Five: Don’t put anything in her butthole you wouldn’t want in your own.
(Footnote: Try a pinky finger, it’s kinda awesome.)

Six: When you go down on her—and you will go down on her, and if you are my son, you will be amazing at it—tell her how good she tastes. Stop in the middle and kiss her deeply so she knows how good she tastes. Do the same when she goes down on you.

Seven: A simple Google search will yield 1,327 euphemisms for male masturbation, yet only 23 for female masturbation. If guys spent less time jacking off and more time jilling off, this world would be a happier place.

Eight: Everything you need to know about the importance of the clitoris is in the movie Star Wars. You are Luke Skywalker piloting your penis-shaped X-Wing Fighter deep inside her trench. Remember: seventy percent of all Death Stars cannot be blown up through penetration of the trench alone. It must be through focused contact with that little exhaust port at the top of the trench. Otherwise, any explosions you experience will be merely Hollywood special effects.

Nine: Just because you come doesn’t mean she has, so don’t you dare come before her. Focus completely on your partner. Don’t worry about gettin’ yours, you’re a guy. You always get yours. Your job is to make sure she’s gettin’ hers.

Ten: If sex with your partner lasts no longer than this poem, you are not making love. You are masturbating with her body instead of your hand. Shame on you. Go back to step one. You’ve got a lot of learning to do.
Love, Dad.

Big Poppa E., “How To Make Love”  (via kanyequeen)


(via strangevibezz)

These are fantastic, but 


I think I internalized point 9 a little too deeply. When I first heard rumors in high school of guys who were so nervous that they couldn’t finish, I thought “BULL SHIT! That NEVER happens! They’re CLEARLY lying to sound impressive.”  Flash forward - I can probably count on one hand the number of times I’ve been brought to finish by anything other than my own actions. It’s frustrating for both parties! One time the person I was with ended up in tears because the frustration played on her insecurities and fears of sexual inadequacy. That’s a pretty awful way to end a night of fun; I don’t recommend it. 

So basically, I’d say amend #9 to mention that it’s possible to go too far in the other direction. You don’t want to delay your gratification for so long that you lose your shot at it, and you don’t want to be so nervous about finishing early that you start actively fighting your sensations of pleasure beyond a certain threshold. 



I prefer fork, knife, spoon.


One major facet of cultural appropriation is taking artifacts that would be violent on the body of a person of color and making them trendy on a white body.

That’s why Forever 21 is able to sell a Black Panther crop top, and why Che Guevara t-shirts are so popular, and why Macklemore can win Grammy’s for writing songs about smelly sheets, and why white drugged out kids can walk around Coachella in tacky “native” headdresses.

When people of color cannot participate in aspects of their culture without persecution, but white people are welcome to those aspects, that’s a major undeniable example of white privilege.

"Wait, you’re saying ‘Thrift Shop’ wouldn’t have blown up if it had been recorded by B.O.B. instead of Macklemore?" - My inner voice.

Yes, Inner Voice. It’s entirely likely that white people wouldn’t have cared even half as much if B.O.B. had recorded and released “Thrift Shop.” It’s a shame, but that’s the state of things as they are now. 

Posting this here so I can find it later. Because apparently I don’t believe in XMarks.

"At this point, if anyone on the internet tells me that a video is going to "blow my mind," or that I need to "wait for it," or that I should prepare to "change the way I think," I immediately want to run an ultra-marathon down an abandoned mine shaft and into the earth’s molten core."

Lindy West, you have perfectly summed up my opinion on the goddamn “curiosity gap” trend in headline writing.


Review of Edward Scimia’s fun book - “So Bad, It’s Good: More Than 50 Great Films for Your Bad Movie Nights” with a foreword by Obscurus Lupa/Allison Pregler -


Review of Edward Scimia’s fun book - “So Bad, It’s Good: More Than 50 Great Films for Your Bad Movie Nights” with a foreword by Obscurus Lupa/Allison Pregler -